The world is only changing and parenthood is also affected by all these changes. Parents often wonder about the best way to educate their child. Even if today children are listened to more than in the past, it is sometimes difficult to know how to go about it.
Positive education, what is it?
The objective of positive education, also called “benevolent education”, is to encourage the child rather than to punish him. It is an educational method that manages family difficulties in order to pacify relationships. We are here against punitive and coercive methods such as punishments, spankings, threats, etc. Positive education promotes trust and communication.
Positive education, what for?
Neuroscience studies have shown that punitive and coercive methods block all reasoning in children and promote withdrawal. This is the first time that an educational approach has been scientifically validated. Indeed, research has shown that a benevolent education allows the brain to develop well.
However, you must be careful not to fall into the trap. An overly positive education can sometimes be perceived as lax. Indeed, positive education also requires setting rules for the child. The latter needs a framework to grow.
A new vision of education
Positive education is a totally different vision from the authoritarian education known at the time. She defends the idea that it is totally possible to educate your child in joy and good humor.
Our tips for understanding positive parenting
For a positive education, it is necessary:
- Communicate and express emotions;
- Set rules;
- Avoid punishments and rewards;
- Trust;
- Do not scream ;
- Do not judge.
To learn more about positive education, do not hesitate to read the following books:
- « L’enfant » by Maria Montessori ;
- « J’ai tout essayé » by Isabelle Filliozat ;
- « L’élément » by Ken Robinson ;
- « Porter un regard bienveillant sur l’enfant et sur soi » by Arnaud Deroo ;
- « La discipline positive » by Jane Nelsen.
Sources :
LA LIBRE (2022). L’éducation positive, nouvelle religion des parents ? Available HERE
MPEDIA (2020). Qu’est-ce que l’éducation positive ? Available HERE
PASSEPORT SANTE. 10 choses à savoir sur l’éducative positive. Available HERE
